The Prophet’s guidance concerning sexual activity

The Prophet’s guidance concerning sexual activity

His is the most effective guidance, as it preserves the health, completes satisfaction, and acquires the goals that this activity was meant to achieve.

Goals of sexual activity

Sexual intercourse is meant to achieve three essential goals: 

1.     Reproduction and the preservation of mankind until the number of souls that Allah has order to come to this world is fulfilled and completed.

2.     Expelling the water (semen), which would cause harm if it remains inside the body.

3.     Satisfying sexual desire and enjoying sex and the bounty that it represents.

The last essential goal is the only one that will be satisfied in Paradise, because there will be no reproduction in Paradise nor accumulation of sperm that needs to discarded.

If this is how significant sperm is, one should realize that it should not be used or spent to achieve reproduction or to legally rid the body of it when it gets old. When the sperm is congested in the body, it will cause certain ailments, such as obsession, madness, and epilepsy. Discarding it, on the other hand, helps cure many of these ailments. When the sperm is kept in the body for a long time, it becomes spoiled and turns into a toxic material that can cause certain ailments. This is why sometimes sperm is expelled from the body naturally.

Some of our Salaf said, “ Man should take care of three : he should not ignore walking, so that when he needs it one day he is able to do it; he should not refrain from sexual activity, because if the well’s water is not drawn out, it will drain.”

Also, Muhammad bin Zakariyya said, “Whoever ignore sex for long time, his nerves will weaken, and their flowing will be blocked, and his penis will shrink. I have seen some people who did not have sex claiming to observe some kind of abstinence and their bodies became colder, their movements restricted and unexplainable depression touched them. Further, their appetite and digestive powers also decreased.”

Sexual activity helps lower the gaze, repulse lust, allows one the ability to refrain from illegal sexual activity and also achieves these goals for the wife. When in this life and the Next Life.

Why used to fulfill legal sex?

This is why the Prophet (S.) used to fulfill his legal sexual desire, as he used to say:

“I was made to like women and perfume from your world”

Encourage to marry, why?

Further, the Prophet (S.) encourage his nation to marry:

“Get married, because I will compete by your numbers with the other nations.”

Also, Ibn’Abbas (R) said: “ The best of this nation are those who have the largest number of wives (up to four).”

Also, the Prophet (S.) said: I marry women , eat meat, sleep, stand in Qiyam, fast and break my fast. Whoever ignores my Sunnah is not from my people.”

Furthermore, he said: O young men! Get married whoever can afford it, because it helps lower the gaze (from looking at what is prohibited) and protects the sexual organ( from illegal sexual activity). Those who cannot afford it should fast because fasting will cure them.”

Also, when Jabir (R.) married a matron woman, the Prophet(S.) said: “ Why not have a virgin who fondles you and fondle her.”

Also, Ibn Majah narrated in his Sunan that Ibn’Abbas(R.) related from the Prophet(S.) That he said: “ We do not see a better resort for those who love each other than marriage.”

Muslim also narrated in his Sahih that Abdullah bin’Umar related from the Prophet(S.)  that he said: “ The life of this  world is enjoyment, and the best enjoyment in the life of this world is a righteous wife.”

Encourage to marry beautiful virgin, why?

The Prophet(S.) used to encourage his nation to marry  beautiful virgin women who are also religious. An-Nasai’ narrated that Abu Hurairah(R.) said, The Messenger of Allah (S.) was asked, who among women is the best? He said: “The one who would please him (her husband) if he looks at her, obeys him if he commands her and avoids disobeying him in what he hates concerning herself and his money.”

In the Sahihain it is also narrated that the Prophet(S.) said: “The woman is married for four reasons: her wealth, position, beauty and religion. So marry the religious woman, may your hand be filled with sand (a good expression).”

The Prophet (S.) also used to encourage marrying women who bare children and did not like marrying women who cannot bare children. Abu Dawud narrated that Ma’qil bin Yasar said, “A man came to the Prophet(S.) and said, “I know of a beautiful, rich woman whom I want to marry, but she does bare children. Should I marry her?” He said, “No.” The man came a second time, and the Prophet(S.) did not allow him, on third time, the Prophet(S.) said: “Marry the kind woman who bares children, for I will compete concerning your large numbers with to the other nations.”

At-Tirmidhi related from the Prophet(S.) that he said: Four are among the tradition of the Prophets: marriage, using siwak ( natural toothbrush), wearing perfume and dyeing with Henna.”

The husband should first fondle his wife before having wife before having sex with her, by kissing her and sucking her tongue sometimes. The Messenger of Allah (S.) used to do the same with his wives. Abu Dawud narrated in his Sunan: “The Prophet (S.) used to kiss ‘Aishah (R.) and suck her tongue.”

Also, Jabir bin’Abdullah narrated:

“The Messenger of Allah (S.) did not allow sexual intercourse before fondling (the wife).”

Bath needs after fondle, why?

Sometimes, the Prophet (S.) would sleep with all of his wives in one night and would only take bath afterwards. Sometimes, the Prophet(S.) would take a bath after sleeping with each of his wives. Muslim narrated in his Sahih that Anas(R.) said, “the Prophet(S.) would sometimes sleep with all of his wives and take one bath afterwards.”

Also, Abu Dawud narrated in his Sunan that abu Rafi’ The Prophet(S.) servant, said, “The Messenger of Allah once slept with all of his wives and took a bath after each time. I said, “O Messenger of Allah, why not take only one bath afterwards? He said, “The is more pure, cleaner and better.”

It is allowed for those having sexual intercourse to have sex for a second time after they perform ablution. Muslim narrated in his Sahih that abu Sa’eed Al-Khudri said that the Messenger of Allah(S.) said: “When one of you sleeps with his wife and then wants to repeat, let him perform ablution.”

Taking a bath or ablution after sex refreshes the energy and the strength and cleans whatever’s has remained during sex (semen, for example). It is also an act of purity and cleanness. The inner heat will also get back to its normal level of activity after it had been excited during sex. Also, taking a bath satisfies what Allah prefers of cleanliness and discards its opposite (impurity), which Allah hates. Thus, taking a bath after sex is one of the best acts that preserves one’s health and strength.

Sex is the best after your food has been digested

At that time the bodies’ inner coldness, hotness, dryness and wetness are moderate. Sex is harmful when the stomach is full more than it is empty. Such is the case when the body feels excessive wetness, as compared to dryness, and heat as compared to coldness. Also, one should have sex when the desire is ignited and thus the body is naturally ready to have sex, not because one just thought about it.

One should not ignite his sexual appetite when it is not naturally excited and should not force himself to have sex. Also, one feels that his sexual appetite is ignited, he should have sex to satisfy it. One should avoid having sex with an old women, the very young who are not ready yet for sex or do not desire it, an ailing woman, a woman who isn’t comely or a hated woman. Having sex in such cases will weaken the strength and the sexual drive.

Some doctors made an error when they stated that having sex with a matron woman is better for the health than with a virgin. This statement defies what the best minds have stated and goes against the nature of mankind in general. When one marries a virgin, his heart will be fully dedicated to her and will be filled with her love. Also, he will not divide the type of love he reserves for her with any other women (who he marries later on). This is why Prophet(S.) said to Jabir (R.) : “Why didn’t you marry a virgin?”

The women of Paradise, the Houris, have not been touched by any person before their future, believing husbands in Paradise, a bounty from Allah that makes them more appealing. In addition, ‘Aishah(R.) once said to the Prophet(S.):

“If you pass by a tree that has been grazed on and a tree that is still untouched, which one would you allow your camel to graze on?” He said, “The tree that is still untouched by grazing.”

She meant that he did not marry a virgin woman except her.

Having sex with a woman that one loves will not weaken the body and will expel the semen more effectively. Having sex with a woman that one does not like will weaken his strength and will not expel sufficient amounts of the semen congested in the body.

Having sex with a woman who is having her period is not allowed in the religion and by the nature of things, as it is very harmful and all doctors warn against it.